Here’s the thing about being fun, “pretty” and single: I never know how to answer the “why” question.
“I just haven’t met anyone” is my go-to response. Being single isn’t a bad thing. It can be a wonderful gift that allows you the time and freedom to focus on creating the life you want and trusting that, when the time is right, you’ll meet someone special to walk the journey with. In the meantime, it only makes sense to live completely on your terms, right? What’s not to love about the following?
1. You get to eat whatever your little heart desires. Snack plates for dinner? Pancakes? Four bowls of cereal? Several spoonfuls of peanut butter straight from the jar? Don’t mind if I do…
3. You get to watch all of your favorite guilty-pleasure tv shows without someone eye rolling, moaning and groaning beside you. For the record, I have NEVER asked a boy to watch Vanderpump Rules or Real Housewives with me. Yet, they always seem to force themselves through it, then have the nerve to ask “Why do you watch this?!” Um because…
4. You don’t have to constantly explain things like kombucha, acai bowls, kale chips, Quest bars, green juice – heck, green ANYTHING, overnight oats: what they are, what they taste like and why we eat them. (Although, I must admit, I take great pleasure in introducing men to these)
…. and why we insist on eating and drinking anything and everything out of a mason jar…. (or a near empty peanut butter jar)
5. You can take your sweet ass time figuring what types of boys you like… but more often than not, which ones you definitely don’t like.
First dates can be a lot of fun – who cares if it doesn’t go anywhere? I don’t focus on trying to determine if there’s immediate chemistry and treat it as a an experience: meeting someone new, swapping life stories and creating a unique ‘first date’. Bonus points if it’s something active and outdoors – like hiking! It’s the best way to get to know someone. Nature has a way of humbling people and letting their authentic selves shine through.
6. You and your fellow single lady friends will start a group chat where you’ll share funny pictures and screen shots of all the stupid things boys say to you online. Most importantly, they’ll be your support system to remind you that there ARE gems out there, but the dating pool can often feel like shopping at a sparse, barren, dead, desolate wasteland discount store. (Okay, perhaps a tad dramatic) You have to be patient, have fun and sift through the garbage to find the treasure. (So much garbage though…)
7. You will become a better friend.
It’s easy to let friendships fall by the wayside when you’re consumed by a romantic relationship – and really, it’s hard not to be in those initial lust-filled months. Your partner should be your best friend, and no better way to practice those life skills than showing up for your homies! Real talk: my best friends know (the most ridiculous) things about me that I’d NEVER share with a boyfriend. It’s so important to keep a tight circle of authentic friends who make you laugh and let you be who you want to be.
8. It’s the perfect time to cultivate new hobbies or discover passions you may have not had the time to pursue when you were attached.
Breaking up with my last boyfriend was such a incredible blessing, as it forced me to ask myself some really important questions. Instead of chasing after a boy, I chased after my marathon goal AND launched Alberta Adventure Girls projects. I “know” I could’ve done these with a man on my arm, but I didn’t have a sense of urgency.
9. You get to re-claim your independence and remember how capable you are of walking the path alone.
It’s no ones job to make us feel happy and fulfilled. It’s completely up to us. See, we have the choice of free will and only our participation is requested. “Misery is comfortable. It’s why so many people prefer it. Happiness takes effort” Here is a great article that is guaranteed to change your heart and make you a better person.
10. You can check out hot guys in public and not feel guilty about it. Not one bit. I had a “moment” a few weeks ago that took my breath away. I was in an elevator and a very nice looking, well-dressed man stepped on. His eyes lit up and said, “Good morning! How are you?” My face started burning. Oh God….”I’m great! How are you?”
We stepped off the elevator and looked back at each other at the same time. *major heart palpitations* I saw him a few minutes later as he was driving away (in a red Audi) and he waved.Those fleeting moments that make you feel special? Oh man, isn’t that the BEST? It makes me excited for the future. For that first kiss. The anticipation and excitement of a new beginning? SO GREAT.
Over to you, friends! Single or not, what are some things you appreciate (or appreciated) about being solo?