Lifechat: BEING vs. DOING

“Why do you even get out of bed in the morning? You’ve been on this planet eating food, drinking water, breathing air, using resources… and for what? What have you really done? What are you doing? What are you working towards to make the universe’s investment in you worthwhile? You take the easy road and that explains a lot.”  {You should have written and published a book by now; you should’ve started a family by now, you should’ve, you should’ve, you should’ve….}

Recently, someone tossed this question at me and it deeply hurt. It followed a question I’d posed:  if life feels hard, maybe it’s because we’re trying to swim upstream – against the natural flow  – towards things we don’t really want. What if, what we truly desire is downstream and all we have to do is let the current take us there?  
I don’t believe we have to struggle and fight through life to achieve what we want. Life shouldn’t be so hard, and if it is – maybe it’s because we’re resistant. Our society has us conditioned to believe that success and anything worthwhile comes with sacrifice, battles, emotional turmoil and pain. But why? Why does it have to be that way? Seriously, why the fuck are we okay with that? Why should I take the hard road when I could cruise on down the easy path and enjoy the process along the way?

I’ve always been one to question things.

For a moment, I felt like I hadn’t earned my place in the world. I was perceived as “less than” because well, compared to them I don’t have the same social and job status, wealth and life experience as them. They were comparing how they live and operate to how I live and operate. “Maybe they’re right. Maybe I don’t try hard enough? Maybe I should be and do more?” I cried. “But I don’t know how to be anything other than what I am”.

Soft, feminine, intuitive,  focused on “being” rather than “doing”.

Our world is powered and united, (and unfortunately sometimes divided) by the masculine and feminine; yin and yang; dark and light; solar and lunar energies.

The current state of our world (especially in the workplace) seems to over-value masculine energy: it’s the go, go, go, hustle hard, aggressive, action, dominant, left brained force.  It’s a good thing and we need it, but it’s not the be all, end all. We forget about it’s feminine counter part: the softer, quieter, gentler strength: a passive, intuitive, compassionate, submissive energy.

‘Moon power burns as brightly as solar power’

What I’m getting at is this: our inner beings don’t actually CARE about what we’re doing. They only care about what they’re being as we experience life. So don’t get too caught up in trying to keep up with the insanity of this fast-paced world. The amount of 0’s at the end of your paycheck or social status isn’t an accurate measure of how successful you are, or how loving of a person you are, or how meaningful your life is.

There’s a current of life energy accessible to all of us and it will help us achieve what we want very quickly – but it’s hard to explain it to someone who can’t see the physical manifestation in their own lives.  All I can do is speak from experience and trust my heart. I’m proud of my strengths, even though others may perceive them as weakness.

At the end of the day, all of my desires manifested when I wasn’t trying to make anything happen. There’s something to be said for relaxing into the sweet, natural flow of life and letting the current carry us, instead of paddling like maniacs trying to make shift happen.

I’m not sure why we’re sending a message that being busy all the time is something to be proud of. How about less busy-ness and more productivity? More mindfulness and less distractions. Less noise,  more introspect. Less pointing fingers and more living by example?

Let me know what you think!

2 Replies to “Lifechat: BEING vs. DOING

  1. Yes, Jo. There is so much beauty and truth in your words.
    Although I do think that everyone must KNOW sacrifice and pain in their lives, I do not think we have to CHASE sacrifice and turmoil for the sake of reaching some fabricated destination that the world thinks is good or acceptable. The only thing we should be chasing is deep, true, underlying peace, which may involve hard things at times, but it doesn’t have to. I love what you said about “being” instead of just “doing”. Both are important, but “being” I think is the only way we can truly “do” in an effective and peaceful way.
    One of my favorite quotes that has helped me tremendously in every aspect of my life this past year has been, “Give God permission,” spoken by Mother Teresa. In other words, Alison, stop trying to strain for everything to be how you think it should be, or even how you think God wants things to be. Rest easily in knowing that God will lead you to where He wills you to go. Just give Him permission to do so each and every day, and just follow Him. I feel like it’s the same idea behind your words on letting the current of life take us.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this, Jo. You rock.

  2. I totally agree with your points here. Way wayyyyy too much emphasis modern day on shit that, quite frankly, could not be less significant in the long run, and won’t do jack squat to improve your quality of life or that of the people you care about (graduating from x university or making x number of dollars). Honestly. I wish more people realized how unimportant and utterly time sucking fixating on that stuff is. That was an idiotic thing for that person to say.
    On another note, though, I’ve read in a couple of your posts now that you tend to associate passive attributes with femininity. I know you’re very pro-women and am sure you don’t mean anything negative by that, but i do think that association is a dangerous one. It shouldn’t be considered feminine to be submissive and masculine to be powerful- i mean kinda think of what you’re suggesting by stating that. Men are natural leaders and women natural followers/caregivers? Nah. That men should be assertive, aggressive, while women should go with the flow and not go out and get shit done? Again, nope.
    I get that it’s probably just a way of categorizing traits for you, but using gender to divide and stereotype personality attributes comes frighteningly close to downright sexism.

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